Mic check. One. Two. Hello. Hello. Is this thing on?

Hi, my name’s Jourdan, and I used to be pretty decent at keeping this blog updated.

I could come up with all sorts of valid reasons. I was distracted by the Real Housewives/Jersey Shore/Say Yes to the Dress/ESPN Sportscenter marathon on the History Channel. I forgot where any laptop was for the past 3 months. I forgot what my blog was for the past 3 months. My brain froze. I was obsessed with cardiovascular activity. I invented the next Snuggie.

See! All very valid. I was incredibly busy.

Here’s what I’ve really been doing, or have hoped to be doing, or wished I was doing, and I know I should be doing. This is quite possibly the most determined post I’ve created so far.

I am supposed to help traumatized women. Women who have experienced things that no one should experience. They are damaged and broken and demoralized. These women come from all walks of life. They are all ages, all socioeconomic levels, all races, and all backgrounds. Some of them have reported what happened to them, others are silent victims. Some of the bastards (Do I need to apologize?) that commited these crimes are living out their sentences, others are adding to the list of lives they torment. Helping them find their voice again is what I am called to do.

Over the last few months, I’ve been trying to “write this off.” You know, ignore it or delay the fact that certain life experiences have led to this emphatic word from the Lord, “You are supposed to help women.” You see, I’ve never been a fan of “Women’s Ministry.” I always felt it was a bit much. I never felt completely comfortable – like there were eyes watching me because I didn’t have a scowl and didn’t own a crock pot. I also thought that there were way too many chenille sweaters involved in Women’s Minsitry. (Too many assumptions?)

So, when I heard this word from the Lord, I said – “Someone else will do it!” But then, the thought actually crossed my mind, “I don’t want anyone else to do it ’cause I know I’m supposed to.” Have you ever had that happen?!?? When God actually convicts you enough that you talk yourself into what you were just talking yourself out of? It’s comforting and daunting and nauseating and empowering all in the same feeling. I’m overwhelmed and feel like I need some sort of aromatherapy or psychotherapy…but in the end, retail therapy.

I finally met with my counselor, Dee, who is absolutely incredible. When I told her why I was there and what I wanted to do, she started crying. “These are tears of joy,” she explained. She literally gave me a list of people to contact and organizations to approach. She told me there was nothing like this really anywhere and provided some much-needed insight. Here’s what we came up with…

I’ll start with lay-led support groups for women 18 and above.  These will be discussion format, as comfortable as possible. We may take a vote on what topic or emotion we talk about during each time we are together or just start talking and go from there. These support groups will take place in an unbiased, safe location. Dee offered her office to start with and as we grow, because I’m praying we will, we’ll find another location to move to.

My ultimate vision is transitional housing for women that have been abused. As Dee suggested, a “Ronald McDonald House” for traumatized women. Housing that offers all sorts of therapeutic sessions – whether one-on-one counseling sessions, equine therapy, group therapy, art/creative therapy, etc. They will need time to reflect, journal, think, process, etc. I would love to have land for horses and animals and room to roam. I want the house to be comfortable, warm, and inviting with different rooms to allow for a variety of activities – art, reading, music, crafts, open and fully-functioning kitchen, individual bedrooms – I can go on and on. I want the women to feel secure and strengthened the longer they are at the house. Whether that’s through job training, life skill workshops, cooking classes, exercising, self-defense classes, or learning how to tell their story, they need their confidence to come back.  

I know that this is possible. Right now it’s all up to my determination and drive to get things going. I appreciate your prayers in that area, as well as, further direction through conversation and research. I also need to come up with a name for this organization so that I can file for non-profit status. All of this will be a huge life-change for me. I’m quite nervous about what this entails, but I know that the need is there. I know that I am supposed to help these women, and I know what the vision is that God’s given me.

Craziness! A lot of information, but I need people to know. That’s part of the accountability in all of this. I keep listening to Chris Tomlin’s “I Will Rise,” as I think and pray about what this looks like and who these women will be and why I’m the one called to do so. Even now, I feel a sense of urgency to post this blog! I’ll end with Chris Tomlin’s song (Please disregard the Willow Smith – Whip My Hair ad at the beginning…quite the contrast…)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKRF8UihM5s&ob=av3nm

Thank you for reading! It means more to me than you can imagine. Your comments are much appreciated as well!

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10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. christy
    Jan 19, 2011 @ 22:39:29

    Jourdan, I believe that when God gives us a task to do, He also gives us the skills needed to complete that task. He’s already given you a passion for these broken women & He’s allowed you to connect with Dee. She sounds like an amazing, strong woman.
    I’d love to support you by offering massages (permitting they’re appropriate for the circumstance).
    Blessings on you,
    Christy

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  2. Ali
    Jan 19, 2011 @ 23:40:42

    I read this whole thing with a smile on my face. I couldn’t be more excited to see what God makes of this and how incredible the whole thing will be. SHEESH! I love you and am so so proud of your aspirations. You will do incredible things, Ms. Foran. Haha.

    LOVE YOU!!

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  3. Ali
    Jan 19, 2011 @ 23:41:57

    Also, Adam Grubb introduced me to this song and I listened to it my whole time in Guatemala. It must be the song for when big things are happening… just saying. 🙂

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  4. Paul
    Jan 20, 2011 @ 05:13:19

    The dreaded “So I haven’t updated this in a while” post is not unlike the “Coach has my full confidence” quote from the GM. It almost always means the end is right around the corner.

    Don’t let it be you! With all the great stuff you’re doing, carve out the time to blog. Everybody will be better for it.

    Go for it, Jourdan!

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  5. liz dickson
    Jan 20, 2011 @ 07:52:44

    Hey Jourdan! Great post! I’m excited for you and the women who find you! I look forward to seeing what god does with this and I’ll pray and continue to pray for true freedom for these women.
    Much love,
    Liz

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  6. superninos
    Jan 20, 2011 @ 19:00:09

    Oh Jourdan. I think that if this blog is infact a quest to become more “youier”, your absence is more than appropriate as you infact live that mission. So amazing how all the experiences in one’s life can lead you to path like this. Your vision is absolutely amazing!! I am going to be brain-storming incesantly of ways I can help. So much love.
    KO

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  7. Christen
    Jan 20, 2011 @ 20:23:41

    Jour dan! You will do amazing at anything u put your mind to! The
    Lord uses u in incredible ways and he will equip u for whatever he has in store! I will pray for u! Love u!!

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  8. Katie
    Jan 23, 2011 @ 13:17:30

    Amazing!! The last sermon at church was about how the kingdom of heaven is attracted to courage, and doing things that you’re unsure of starting is a HUGE act of courage. I’m inspired by the steps you’ve taken to become “youier” – big hugs, cousin. 🙂

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  9. Jourdan M. Foran
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 09:27:36

    Thank you so much for your comments! I’m going to print these out and hang them on the wall. You have encouraged me so much. I will definitely be courageous and keep you all posted! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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  10. Emily
    Mar 02, 2011 @ 10:07:32

    Wow. Wow is all I can say. I agree with Christy – If He has called you to this, He will provide. I’m really touched by your willingness, and want to offer you any encouragement that I can as you work to fulfill this dream placed on your heart by the Lord. I want to send you some scriptures – I’ll either email or send you a facebook message. 🙂

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